in the war between the legal wife and the
mistress significant other of the late iggy arroyo, i find myself wondering how i’d handle it, in either one’s place.
i’d like to think, if i were in the place of aleli — given that six years na since the hubby packed up and left, an annulment good as done, already practically in the bag, except for some filing technicality that has nothing to do with the case — that i would settle for a low-profile kind of grieving, no media interviews, if only for the sake of our daughter. i would also try very hard to be glad that my ex was well cared-for and well-loved through his illness and last days.
i’d like to think, if i were in the place of grace, that i would have given aleli more space and consideration, since lamang na lamang naman ako, having had iggy to mysef in his last years. i would give aleli the benefit of the doubt, baka naman mahal pa talaga niya si iggy, and perhaps she was not entirely to blame for the breakup of the marriage. again, if only for the sake of the children, i would have tried to keep to my part of the agreement re wake attendance, and not call more attention to myself than was necessary.
of course there’s more to it — the animosity, the one-upwoman-ship — than meets the eye. there’s the fortune that iggy left, most likely some of it to grace? which may be why aleli insists on behaving like the grieving legal wife — she will insist on her share, never mind the annulment? and she will contest grace’s right to administer the estate, as reportedly willed by iggy?
on women’s day / month, it’s hard not to wish that aleli and grace felt and behaved more kindly towards each other. after all, it’s a sad enough time for them and the children without the negative vibes. but yes, easy for me to say. and yes, animosity between the women, in cases like these, can get really deep and intense, lalo na when there’s money involved.
it’s not new, of course, a dead man’s
mistress girlfriend, sometimes mistresses girlfriends, making an appearance at the wake, to the distress of the wife and children, sending titillated tongues wagging. but iggy having been a public figure, the spectacle of wife and mistress girlfriend vying for public sympathy, televised for all the nation to see, has been rather disconcerting, colored by all sorts of speculation as to the motives of the women, and neither coming out of it smelling good (so to speak).
a proper divorce law would have settled the break-up of the aleli-iggy marriage much sooner. then maybe iggy could have married grace and her rights would be unassailable.
but we don’t have a divorce law, the exception in a civilized world, thanks to bishops and priests in cahoots with predominantly male
congressmen and senators legislators still living in the dark ages, with little respect, or real love, for women.
ironically enough, both aleli and grace seem to be in the good graces of the church, both women being equally accommodated in all church rituals. it’s like saying the church condones the kabit-system, which, in tandem with their opposition to the RH bill, is like saying, go forth, men, and multiply, with multiple women yet! male chauvinism rules, alas!