Category: marriage

kris strikes again

di ko na sana papatulan itong latest drama ni kris aquino — na grabe naman ang timing, segue na segue ang launching ng bago niyang teleserye — kaya lang we are getting / being given only one side of the story which is really quite unfair to james yap, and to mayen austria na rin.   sino ba talaga ang biktima dito.   si kris nga ba?   o si james?   o si mayen?   o tayo?

of course i’m coming from the point of view, generally accepted, na there’s no affair going on, austria is just a fan kind of friend, which sense i get from two sympathizers of james : his teammate marc pringis, husband of vic & dina’s danica sotto…

Purefoods teammate defends James

MANILA, Philippines — Purefoods forward Marc Pingris defended his teammate James Yap and the latter’swife Kris Aquino on reports that the actress-TV host made a scene outside the house of an alleged girlfriend of her hubby.

Pingris said being linked to their fans is part of their lives as basketball stars.

“‘Wag silang basta-basta naniniwala sa hindi nila nakikita, kasi sa showbiz andyan na ‘yung paninira,” he said.

… and jaemark tordecilla of the sports blog firequinito

I feel a bit sorry for James Yap in this situation. He couldn’t be thrilled that his wife threw him under the bus on national TV while she played victim; how’s that going to help salvage their marriage? I think everyone can agree that the girl wasn’t his girlfriend, although her calling him up might have been inappropriate.

(Like the rest of the country, I wonder why that girl was calling him for romantic advice. Is he the Papa Jack of PBA players, and was this his own little “True Love Conversations”? Can PBA fans just start doing this? I’m also a huge Purefoods fan. Can I just start calling up Jondan Salvador the next time I need love advice? He seems like he’s a good listener. Or should I start sending him cupcakes first? …)

my guess is, austria called not so much to ask for advice but to cry on james’ shoulder, figuratively speaking, and share with james, her basketball idol-friend, the latest hurt in her life.   she’d have called too, i bet, if something wonderful happened, like a new boyfriend, or a lotto win.   whatever.   it’s the kind of thing some avid fans do to connect somehow anyhow with their idols.   pero usually, mababaw ang kaligayahan ng fans.   makita lang ang idolo nila ay okey na, mangitian o makindatan lang sila ay happy na, makausap lang nila sandali ay heaven na.   which is not to say that it can’t go deeper or farther, but that depends na on how the celeb handles the situation.

basketball players like james, let us remember, are well-advised to be nice to fans, because some fans can be very vicious when snubbed or ignored, which would mean negative publicity not just for the player but also for the team and for the company sponsor that’s paying him / them a lot of money for promotional purposes.   and james yap, if tordecilla is to be believed, already sounds to me like freddie webb in the sixties and jaworski in the eighties, please correct me if i’m wrong:

Yap is not only one of the best players in the game, but he’s also the most popular (with fans) and the most despised (with critics)–which makes him pretty much the most relevant PBA player of his generation.

so he must have a lot of female fans, the more the merrier, and the wife — nakalimutan na siguro niya that she herself started out as a fan — will just have to learn to deal with it if she truly wants the marriage to work and to last.   just because me tumatawag kay james na mga babaeng fan, just because kinakausap niya itong mga babaeng fan, ay hindi ibig sabihin na james is being unfaithful or not being a good husband.   dealing with fans kindly, nicely, is part of the job, as she should know.

my first reaction upon hearing kris’s story was : okay, what if di sinagot ni james ang ringing celfone, would that have made a difference?   i doubt it.   i can imagine an alternative script :  kris demanding to know (immediately or later), why dont/didnt you answer?   who’s calling ba, why is she calling you, why not answer it and tell her to stop calling, what’s going on ba, if you don’t answer it i will.   ang bottom line : james was damned if he did, damned if he didn’t.

which makes me wonder if kris was on naghahanap-lang-ng-away mode para mapag-usapan siya for the sake of her new teleserye and, maybe, para mai-promote niya si noynoy as the very moral brother.   who knows.   showbiz savvy, media savvy, that’s kris for you.   for us.   which may even explain why she did what she did : after insisting she wants to save the marriage, she ups and leaves james, she needs space daw.   ano ba yan.    that’s no way to work at a marriage.   poor james.   but well, wow, imagine a reconciliation scene, imagine the ratings, kris and james back in each other’s arms, around valentine’s day of course, which is her birthday, which coincides with the chinese new year, hmmm, i wonder what she’ll be launching then, i wonder what’s cooking (sniff sniff).

in fairness, kris actually does the public, especially women, a service, everytime she goes on nationwide tv to discuss her marriage woes, which is to show & tell (in a manner of speaking) what NOT to do if you really want to keep your man.